17-year-old; never kissed a girl
OK, I can almost predict that people will tell me to wait and I’ll eventually get in a relationship – please don’t. I hate being passive about stuff.
Since I’ve found the seduction community, I’ve improved a lot. Started to dress well, no longer skinny, became a social butterfly, got really focused. Yet, I just can’t seem to get in a intimate relationship with anyone (not that I want anyone… I have standards).
People, even my closest friends, assume I’m always scoring with the girls since I act like someone who does. I mean, I have girls inviting themselves over to my place, I have girls ditching their friends to join me at lunch, I hang with the unnaproachable goddesses of High-School, the ones just like in the movies. People even assume I’m no longer a virgin. Yet, my results are zero.
This is the only area of my life that is needing some deep serious work. Why am I not being able to share my life with someone I want? I seem to have everything I need… yet, nothing seems to happen.
Where are you having problems?
-It seems like you have prospects… or not really?
-Are you afraid to ask girls out or try to kiss them?
-Do you not know how to ask a girl out or what to do on a date?
-Are you overdoing the ‘seduction community’ stuff when you could just be yourself and do fine?
Sorry, if you have all these girls into you like you say, where are you getting tripped up? Why not just ask one of the girls out and kiss her at the end of the night, or makeout with someone at a party?
I’m not going to assume that you’re immature just because you’re that age, but I will say that a lot of people that age are. I don’t know exactly what you’re looking for in a relationship, but you said ‘intimacy’. Well, if you’re wanting a mature, commited relationship, then that will probably be harder to find at this time. People aren’t always looking for that. If you’re the kind of person who thinks ‘the girl should be younger’, then, well, good luck to you.
I can’t give you any real advice, because I’ve never been in a relationship.
I feel you.
Your post describes me exactly.
I have thought a lot about this, and I have come up with this:
I look around, and I see all the unnecessary drama and stuff. I don’t want a relationship like that. Like you, I am not some super nerd type, and I have a social life. Maybe I am being too picky, what do you guys think? Because there have been opportunities, especially from the psycho chicks (j/k, but not really).
Maybe I should just get some experience in relationships in H.S. knowing that it probably won’t be a huge deal. Any thoughts…
One more tidbit of advice. You know that awkward good feeling you have when you are talking to a girl and you both know that you like each other? She’s smiling at everything you’re saying and you’re smiling at everything she is saying.
That’s called sexual tension, and if you want to really (not superficially) be good with girls, you have to learn how to build that. If you can amplify that feeling until neither of you can resist each other, escalation will happen on its own.
You don’t want to be one of those jock-fools that tries to escalate physically, and you see his girl say “stop,” and he tries again in a few minutes, while you’re sitting there wondering, “isn’t that assault?” Jerks try to have sex, real men build sexual tension.